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| cybergirl | Posted - 30 January 2001 5:26
When doing something wrong, is it better if you know it's wrong and have the intention that eventually you will stop doing it. Or, should you just not think about it and try to justify to yourself why it's not so bad? Also, is it better to learn halachas and not keep them, or not learn the halachas (and obviously not keep them)? |
| 21 | Posted - 30 January 2001 21:30
cyber, I think the answer to your question is that it is definitely better to know what your doing is wrong. Being aware of the fact that what you are doing is wrong will eventually influence you to stop doing it (cf Mesilas yesharim chapter 2). Another benefit of thinking about your actions right or wrong is this will help you to not act out of habit which the mesilas yesharim describes as a behaviour worse than that of an animals.
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| MODERATOR | Posted - 06 February 2001 22:23
It depends: 1) If you do a sin while not knowing it is wrong, it is not as bad as had you known. 2) However, you are not allowed to purposely not learn in order not to know. If you CAN know and you purposely don't, it's the same as purposely sinning. 3) There are times when we do NOT tell people that what they are doing is wrong, but (a) that only applies to telling others, not to keeping yourself in the dark which is not permitted ever, (b) it is subject to many Halachik qualifications, which are beyond the scope of this post. 4) You should definitely not justify your actions. We always have to be honest with ourselves. Self-deception is not a Torah value. 5) However, you should not DWELL on your sins constantly. It's best not to dwell on them, since this leads to depression and hopelessness. We have Yom Kippur, Erev Rosh Chodesh, and certain occasions to dwell on our sins, but otherwise, we should look to the present and future, not the past. 6) You also need to learn the principle of "sheva yipol tzdik v'kam" -- we all do sins, sometimes serious ones. That does not, in the slightest, mean that we are less destined for greatness. It's the struggle that we maintain that will make us great, not necessarily do we always have to be successful. |
| Me | Posted - 13 February 2001 21:26
let's say someone's doing something they know is wrong I mean not terrible but still wrong and b4 you even tell them it's wrong or have a chance to be dan lkaf zchus that maybe they don't know they tell you i know it's wrong but I'm doing it anyway so don't tell me not to. what am i supposed to do? ignore it and let them get over it themselves? or talk to them like what should i do? |
| MODERATOR | Posted - 14 February 2001 1:26
If you believe your talking will not accomplish anything, leave them alone. If you think you MAY have a chance at correcting their behavior, do so. |
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